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On November 19th, an armed gunman opened fire on Club Q, an LGBTQ+ venue in Colorado Springs during a drag show, killing 5 people and leaving over 25 people with gunshot wounds. Today we catch up with survivor Barrett Hudson, who tells us his story. </p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/priva
<p>James and Dan reflect on the horrific attack on our community in Colorado Springs and discuss the England team's decision not to wear the 'One Love' armband in Qatar, when it was the ONE thing they said they would do.</p><br><p>Join us live in London at Just For Laughs Festival, we can't wait to see you at our biggest show yet <a href="https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>https://london.hahaha.com/events/a-gay-and-a-nongay-podcast/</strong></a></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast
How did a shopping mall Santa murder eight people before he was stopped?
<p>The boys finally rock up in the home of metal and canals for a live show in front of a home crowd (for Dan) They are joined on stage by Eva Echo, Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride and trans activist - and Dan Tiernan, former dinner lady and winner of the BBC New Comedy Award 2022. Plus a special game of Anal or Canal - is it a sex position or a UK waterway?</p><br><p>Trigger warning: This episode contains brief mentions of suicide and eating disorders.</p><br><p>For more on Eva Echo - <a href="https://linktr.ee/evaecho" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://linktr.
<p>Is monogamy worth it or should we all just be open? If you're in an open relationship, does sleeping with other people make it more likely you’ll leave them? Dan thinks it’s way too much admin. We'd love to know what you think? Send us a message or voice note on our instagram or tiktok, follow @gaynongay. </p><br><p><br></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='colo
In a ride of an episode, James is shocked to hear that Dan thinks he could have easily been radicalised as an incel. Plus, is there a ‘gay code’ that would stop gay men from cheating? Oh and Dan really needs to do some research on Jeffrey Dahmer.</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>
<p>Are nipples the clitoris of the boob? We're joined by TikTok icons Ki And Dee (Chiara Hunter and Diana Vickers) to find out.</p><br><p>Plus James and Dan finally meet Adam, 'The London Patient' in real life. Adam is the second person in the world to be considered ‘cured’ of HIV - listen as he enraptures the crowd with his story.</p><br><p>Get tested for HIV, visit<a href=" https://doitlondon.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong> https://doitlondon.org/</strong></a></p><br><p>Find out more information about PrEp and Monkeypox at <a href="https://prepster.info/. " rel="noop
<p>Our final and funniest show of the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022 😂. We've reached Peak Trans as we're joined by the hilarious Jen Ives... and nobody is safe from Famous Celebrity and Very Huge Star, Myra Dubois. </p><br><p>Buy 'Jen Ives: Peak Trans here' <a href="https://ko-fi.com/jenivescomedian" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://ko-fi.com/jenivescomedian</a></p><br><p>Go and see Myra Dubois live <a href="https://www.myradubois.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.myradubois.co.uk/</a></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href
We're live in Edinburgh with LA Comedian Jeena Bloom and 'radical feminist, queer, football lad' Chloe Petts. Plus, 'Things Dan Cannot Say' returns with a question about gay bin men?</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
<p>"They locked me in a room and called me from the other side, they didn't know what to do. Every time I asked someone 'What is gonna happen now?' They said, 'I don't know'. I think that's the scariest bit".</p><br><p>Today we welcome comedian and host of the essential new podcast 'What The Pox?', Martin Joseph.</p><br><p>Martin bravely shuts down his shame, sharing his story and answering questions about monkeypox. Where has it come from? How is it transmitted? Can you catch it twice? Is this outbreak part of a much bigger picture? And - from Dan - why do the gays love a virus?</p><br><p>You
<p>🎉 James and Dan are back at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 2022. Dan has trouble finding the clitoris 👀 and we're joined by comedians Joseph Parsons and life of the party (and Dan's stand-up teacher) Sikisa... Just don't judge her course by Dan's jokes.</p><br><p>See Joseph Parsons live <a href="https://www.josephparsons.co.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.josephparsons.co.uk/</a></p><br><p>Party with Sikisa at her Soho Theatre run this September <a href="www.instagram.com/twix_choc87/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.instagram.com/twix_choc87/</a
<p>It’s official! Soon you’ll be able to book Dan as a Jamie Dornan lookalike. Plus find out why James won't be winning an award for Best Poster at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022. </p><br><p><em>A Gay And A NonGay </em>is taking a break in August, we’ll be back in September!</p><br><p>Come and see us live in Edinburgh, London and Birmingham, details here <a href="https://linktr.ee/gaynongay" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://linktr.ee/gaynongay</a></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus conten
<p>A Gay And A NonGay is 300 episodes old... or thereabouts 😘. To celebrate, James, Dan and Drag Race royalty Scarlett Harlett help our listener Matt come out to his Mum. It's an emotional one, 😭. <em>Coming Out Out, </em>presented with thanks to KISS, 7Digital and the Audio Content Fund.</p><br><p>Come and see us <a href="https://linktr.ee/gaynongay" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">live</a> in Edinburgh, London and Birmingham!</p><br><p>Buy our new <a href="https://www.proud.beer/shop.html#!/PROUD-Trans-Edition/p/471704080/category=134648074" rel="noopener noreferrer"
<p>We've extended Pride Month for a special chat with The FA's first ever openly gay referee Ryan Atkin ⚽️🏳️🌈. We discuss Jake Daniels coming out as the UK's first openly gay footballer, homophobia in sport, the forthcoming World Cup in Qatar and how football can be used to drive positive change in the world. We love this episode.</p><br><p>We're back on stage this summer, come and see both James and Dan live in London, Manchester & Edinburgh 🎉.</p><br><p><strong>James Barr: Straight Jokes</strong></p><p>20th July @ 8PM - Manchester, Frog and Bucket https://frogandbucket.ticketsolve.com/s
<p>Pride is a protest! LGBTQIA+ people face challenges and obstacles that heterosexual people don’t and today we proudly join podcasts all over the world by marching in Acast's Audio Pride Parade. </p><br><p>James chats about growing up gay in his home town, and Dan tells us how how he celebrates pride as an 'ally'. Happy Pride babies. Next up in Acast's Audio Pride Parade: Homosapiens! </p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:g
<p>For Pride Month, the boys are joined by Elias Jashan, ‘Priti Patel’s worst nightmare’ and editor of the new Anthology This Arab Is Queer, the first of its kind featuring the memoirs of eighteen Queer Arab writers. </p><br><p>What inspired Elias to put together this book? Which was the memoir that had him in tears in a coffee shop? (Spoiler alert - he won’t tell us!) And with such a focus on family, is it always harder for LGBTQ+ Arabs to come out?</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patr
<p>As Pride Month continues, James and Dan battle logistical difficulties to welcome Love Island’s Sharon Gaffka, who came out as bisexual on the show in 2021. </p><br><p>For the first time ever, she talks at length about her sexuality, coming out on the show, being trolled online and being fetishised by straight partners. Plus, how *actually* logistically difficult is it to make Love Island less straight?</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br
<p>James and Dan are joined by West End icon and RuPaul’s Drag Race UK finalist Ella Vaday! Nick shares his coming out story, we talk life after Drag Race and Ella’s new film Sumotherhood. Plus get ready for our new quiz show 'Ella Vaday or Theresa May' 👀. Happy Pride Month!!!</p><br><p>Follow Ella Vaday on instagram for tour updates https://www.instagram.com/ellavaday/</p><br><p>Come and see us at the Edinburgh Fringe 2022:</p><br><p>A Gay and A NonGay Live At Edinburgh Fringe https://tickets.edfringe.com/whats-on/gay-and-a-nongay</p><p>James Barr: Straight Jokes in London, Manchester & E
<p>It's Pride Month and James and Dan are back with a whole host of fabulous guests.</p><br><p>First up, Jake and Hannah Graf the UK’s first transgender parents.</p><br><p>Jake is an international multi award winning director, writer and actor. </p><br><p>Hannah is formerly the highest ranking transgender officer of the British Army.</p><br><p>We talk about trans dating, why life is so much harder for trans women than trans men - and James and Dan find out if Hannah and Jake will end up in the Dragon’s Den.</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.aca
<h4>Burn the bridge Becky. People keep telling James he's "too gay". In this episode we hear about James' new stand up hour 'Straight Jokes' and his experience working as an openly gay man in the media. </h4><p><br></p><p>Get tickets for up-coming dates in London, Manchester & Edinburgh at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com 🏳️🌈. Love you babes.</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a s
<p>Do all straight white men live in Kent? James thinks so 😝. Dan's learning stand up comedy and we reflect on his enormous success at the Shakespeare Marathon - he's raised over £6000 for Marie Curie Solihull in memory of his mum and counting - but James is bored of hearing about all of his many media appearances. Jealous much?!</p><br><p>You can continue to donate here <a href="https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dan-hudson5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dan-hudson5</a></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://
<p>Dan and James are joined by Suki Sandhu OBE. He's a CEO and author of the book, A Judgement-Free Guide to Diversity and Inclusion for Straight White Men </p><br><p>On the agenda - How can you tell when a business is just pinkwashing? Should social media companies give allies rainbow ticks? And why can't we say BAME anymore?</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='
<p>James and Dan are joined by multi-award winning film director Sebastian Meise to talk about his new film The Great Freedom. We learn all about the history of Paragraph 175 that criminalised homosexuality in Germany, plus his research trips to dark rooms and the beauty he found 👀.</p><p><br></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_bla
<p>Dan gives James his Christmas present... in April! James discovers the true meaning of Banoffee Pie, and the boys discuss <em>Pam And Tommy</em>.</p><br><p>Dan is running a marathon this weekend and has raised over £4000 for Marie Curie. Please donate here:</p><p><a href="https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dan-hudson5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dan-hudson5</a></p><p><br></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our
<p>In memory of A Gay And A NonGay’s biggest fan.</p><br><p>https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dan-hudson5</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</a><br /><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>
<p>James wants to know if you can be gay and happy? Plus is it okay for LGBTQ+ people to work with organisations with a problematic past? </p><br><p>Please vote 'James Barr and Dan Hudson' in the British LGBT Awards 2022! We're nominated in the Online Influencer category. <a href="https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/ " rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tap here </a>https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/ </p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed</
<p>James and Dan welcome internet sensation Chloe Moriondo to our podcast 🐈. Chloe tells us about growing up queer on the internet, outing their friends, coming out backwards and the 'straight panic' it's caused now that they also fancies boys... sometimes.</p><br><p>Please vote for us to win a <a href="https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">British LGBT Award</a>! Vote for James Barr and Dan Hudson in the Online Influencer Category, click here https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open
<p>We've been nominated for a British LGBT Award! Vote now at <a href="www.gaynongay.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.gaynongay.com</a> 🥇💗! Thank you so much, we love you!</p><br><p>How do you balance your queerness in a vaguely 'heteronormative relationship'? Plus today we find out if James is still sober and there's a huge announcement!</p><br><p>Listen ad-free, sign up at www.gaynongay.com/donate</p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan
She's a Kitty Scott-Claus ladies and gentlemen not a Blind Dater at all
<p>Dan takes his delusion to a new low as he starts a career as a Jamie Dornan look-alike. Need a (supposed) Jamie Dornan lookalike for anything? Enquire within.</p><br><p>FABULOUS NEWS! We're nominated as Online Influencer at the British LGBT Awards, vote for James Barr and Dan Hudson now at <a href="https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://britishlgbtawards.com/vote-now/</a>.</p><p><br></p> <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/1447644">Get bonus content on Patreon, with our supe