A Gay and a Non Gay
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Episodes
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Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin
Wednesday, 21 May 2025
Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field. Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine Award. His new book is Deep House, a queer love story set in an era when gay couples faced significant legal and societal challenges. It is released on June 5th....
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We Won A Webby Award!
Wednesday, 14 May 2025
SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets for tickets now. Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan discuss the idea of gay people eating pot noodles. This inevitably leads to Dan's ongoing attempt to perfect his Shih Tzu lawyer joke... We'll be ...
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Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding
Wednesday, 7 May 2025
If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by... another Dan... as they talk about the importance of understanding diverse journeys within the queer community, de...
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Gay Love IRL vs Incest On The White Lotus
Wednesday, 30 April 2025
Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance as... keeping it in the family... these are the questions we're left asking! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about the scene that has been on everyone's lips and reflect on their feelings. Later in the episode, we hear about Dan's story of his late mother's breast cancer treatment. Highlighting a severe lack of awareness about the scandal, James & Dan talk about the story and the role that attention can play in ...
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If I Wasn't Gay... Who Would Appreciate This Bum?
Wednesday, 16 April 2025
On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think... James & Dan are talking about how marriage impacts your physical appearance, and the differences in that between gay and straight men. This leads onto a bigger conversation around the societal perceptions of sexuality based on your look. Along the way, they explore the implications of male loneliness, the importance of maintaining individual passions and the necessity of inclusivity in striving for equality. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @...
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Is Laughter A Privilege?
Wednesday, 9 April 2025
Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making jokes that involve sensitive topics like transphobia. James and Dan discuss whether the power of laughter can sometimes be a privilege and the impact that their identity has on their comedic approaches. Plus, stay until the end to get a teaser of next weeks episode! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more ...
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Resisting Moving Backwards with Divina de Campo
Saturday, 29 March 2025
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I Identify As Love with Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss
Wednesday, 26 March 2025
We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative minds behind the hit musicals Six and Why Am I So Single. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan chat to Toby and Lucy about their journey from university theatre productions to global success - including their motivations and creative processes. They chat about the unexpected success of Six, the autobiographical inspirations for Why Am I So Single? and the experiences with fans. Plus... why does it suck being on dating apps? The t...
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It's Not That We Don't Like You... Criticism Is Important!
Wednesday, 19 March 2025
Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cultural references and critiques, including the importance of criticism. From debating whether we should be offended by the 'war pigs' term, to seeing how the community critiques art (look to Lady Gaga's new album) and the subjectivity of reviews and journalism... should you support art to support a community, even if you think the art itself isn't that good? Plus we test new jokes and complain about old tech woes! Thank you to our sponsors... S...
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Open Relationships, Egg Shortages and Adventures Abroad
Wednesday, 12 March 2025
It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do! James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community? We also tackle a listener's question about the prevalence of open relationships in the queer community and explore what might be causing this trend. Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfsha...
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Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman
Wednesday, 5 March 2025
Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care. Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 days when she took her own life. Ever since then, Caroline has fought for trans rights, in an attempt to ensure that the pain her daughter went through never needs t...
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Sex Positivity... Or Has It All Gone Too Far?
Wednesday, 26 February 2025
She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards? In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate, both James and Dan grapple with their own opinions and shed light on the broader implications of sexual freedom and stigma. Plus, before all of this, a Super Bow...
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Revisiting Jack Rooke Live At Edinburgh Fringe
Wednesday, 19 February 2025
We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys. Recorded live at Edinburgh Fringe in 2019, James and Dan chat all about the acclaimed TV show, plus they talk about dealing with homophobia at school, overcoming internalised shame, redefining mental health within the queer community and the dynamics of their own identities. Jack also highlights the importance of diverse representation and collective support among LGBTQ+ individuals. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: ...
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They're A Massive Gay! But What Does That Mean?
Wednesday, 12 February 2025
Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still the same (even if they do speak over each other a bit). Once the hilarious technical bits get ironed out, we're asking: What makes you a 'massive gay'? We're digging into the stereotypes found in everyday conversations and debunking them, one gay and nongay at a time. Plus, James and Dan turn to politics to discussing the implications of President Trump's policies on marginalised communities in the US. Could those corporate Pride initiatives ...
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Can Straight Men Do Drag? with Holly Stars
Wednesday, 5 February 2025
Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay! Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive worlds of both drag and comedy? Holly joins James and Dan to share her experiences in both worlds! She also shares her thoughts about why musicals are so alluring to queer communities and how she brings all of this into her smash-hit new drag murder mystery Death Drop! Plus - do straight people still not exist? We'll come back to you on that one... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gay...
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Who Should Propose? The Great Debate
Wednesday, 29 January 2025
We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! So... who should propose? James and Dan are breaking down the traditional roles expected in relationships and challenging the patriarchal norms. Plus, what gets James U-turning on his thoughts about weddings? Towards the end of the episode, we take a look at body shaming as we try to embrace our best lives in 2020 Thrive. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn mo...
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You Hear That? It's Straight Men Being Silent...
Wednesday, 22 January 2025
Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a roof on your head is... ethical? It's kind of complicated. As we dive deeper into the episode, we go into the big topic of straight men's silence on prominent cases of women's abuse, particularly the trial of Gisèle Pelicot. James passionately argues for the responsibility of straight men to be vocal allies, suggesting that guilt or fear of past actions might be reasons for their silence. The episode challenges you to reflect on your role in su...
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Maybe God... Made Us This Way?
Wednesday, 15 January 2025
This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James and Dan reveal the results of a poll about sexual preferences and we chat about negative comments from TikTok! Think of this as a brisk affair lasting just over 8 minutes... you feel light and giddy at the end, and can't wait to come back for more. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...
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Keighley Cougars: The Rainbow-Roaring Rugby Club with Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia
Wednesday, 8 January 2025
When Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come. Having saved the club from bankruptcy, and making it the only openly LGBTQ-owned professional sports club outside of the US, they sought to make it an inclusive, LGBTQ-friendly space, putting diversity at the heart of the club. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan meet Ryan & Kue to talk about the backlash they have received in response to their transformation of the Keighley Cougars, how owning the club has allowed them to hea...
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What's Gay and What's Not?
Wednesday, 1 January 2025
Happy New Year! We're kicking off 2025 how we meant to go on... with an insightful debate around the perceptions of behaviours and items labelled as 'gay' by society. Oh, we're also talking New Years Resolutions (and reflecting on past resolutions) of course! But, seriously, is 2025 the year where people will finally stop calling things 'gay'? Maybe we'll even dismantle societal stereotypes on masculinity and... maybe you'll no longer be able to be "more gay than gay itself"? Time will do it's thing - but what we know for sure is that we're looking forward to spending this year with all of ...
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Elliot Page, Tia Kofi, Jamie Dornan + More! (Best of the Guests 2024)
Wednesday, 25 December 2024
It's time! Christmas Day has come and we're serving you some of our finest moments from 2024... all in one neat package, waiting underneath the tree. On topics ranging from coming out to queer joy, beating stereotypes and non-binary identity, we hear from Drag Race winner Tia Kofi, Golden Globe nominee Richard Gadd, Eurovian winner Nemo, Joel Creasey, Reuben Kaye and, of course, Dan's doppelganger Jamie Dornan as James and Dan wrap up 2024 as only A Gay And A NonGay could. They also tease some of 2025's upcoming guests and reflect on the years most heartfelt conversations... Follow A Gay ...
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Christmas If You're Queer
Friday, 20 December 2024
It's so nearly Christmas... but what does that mean if you're queer? On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring issues around chosen families and setting boundaries which often come up around this time of year for queer people. How do you ensure your loved ones are respectful during this time of festive cheer? And how much should you care about society's reaction to your supposed non-conformity? All of these reflections are contained within... Plus at the top of the episode, James & Dan address the challenges of dealing with online trolls - particularly when P...
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Ageing Twinks & Gay Cruises with Joe Sutherland
Wednesday, 11 December 2024
Do you have an imagined feud with a celebrity? Well, this weeks guest certainly has a story to tell! James and Dan are joined by comedian Joe Sutherland for a rousing edition of A Gay And A NonGay. The trio talk about ageing in the gay community (and the concept of 'twink death') and the societal changes impacting how older LGBTQ+ individuals are perceived. How deep does the generational divide go? Plus, Joe shares his experience on a gay cruise and tries to bring the idea to life for Dan! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gayn...
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Getting Into The Holiday Spirit!
Wednesday, 4 December 2024
It's officially the holiday season and we're delving into some of our holiday traditions (and stresses) and how they differ between gays and, well, nongays. From musical theatre (which is surely an LGBTQ+ staple?!) to family expectations, how do the holidays differ based on your sexuality? Plus, following on the internet trend, Dan contemplates organizing a Jamie Dornan lookalike competition, while James reflects on the pressures of having to frequently discuss their sexual orientation... The holidays - you can't live with em, but you can't live without them! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTo...
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Are Straight People A Hoax?
Wednesday, 27 November 2024
Do you agree with Bob The Drag Queen that straight people are a hoax? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are unpicking the societal constructs around heterosexuality and accepting fluidity in sexual preferences. Whilst James supports Bob's viewpoint, Dan has a more historical perspective on human sexuality and the conversation expands to the nuances of bisexuality and asexuality, and the subconscious influences on sexual identity. If that all sounds very heavy... it isn't! We promise it's funny too... we promise! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram...
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Feeling Like A Spare In Your Relationship?
Wednesday, 20 November 2024
This episode isn't about that Prince Harry memoir - no, this week on A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the concept of 'spares' in relationship. A 'spare' is much like a plastic bag drifting through the wind: having a back-up partner ready in case your plastic bag, well, breaks. James and Dan are debating the ethics around 'spares' in relationships and also diving into the controversy surround the enhanced measures for straight men at The Last Dinner Party's concerts, an all-female rock band with a strong queer following, questioning whether these practices are justified or discriminato...
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Shoe Sizes, Bed Sharing & Overhead Lighting
Wednesday, 13 November 2024
Do you know your shoe size? Well, before we start outrage... on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are tackling some of the top-tier stereotypes that are thrusted upon the community. After all, what do straight men and gay women have in common? Apparently they don't know their own shoe size! Also on this weeks episode: When is it alright to share a bed with your friend? From the complexities of sharing beds with friends of the opposite set to tackling societal norms, James and Dan break through the patriarchy to once again put the world to rights. Follow A Gay & A Non...
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The Triumphant Journey of Tia Kofi
Wednesday, 6 November 2024
When it comes to the Drag world... you don't get much better than the current Queen of the Mothertucking World, Tia Kofi! Having recently won RuPaul's Drag Race: UK vs The World Tia has been using their reign to shine a spotlight on important matters - from LGBTQ+ rights to the queerest event of the year (other than Pride), the Eurovision Song Contest, where she hosted the Turquoise Carpet. Tia joins James and Dan for an eye-opening conversation about the pressures of drag, how to overcome self-doubt, songwriting as a therapy and, of course, all things Drag Race. Listen to Tia Kofi's podca...
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We're Award Winners! (And A Long Story)
Wednesday, 30 October 2024
We're award winners! A Gay And A NonGay recently won the Independent Podcast Award for Best Sex, Love & Relationships and have been shortlisted at the British Podcast Awards! In this weeks episode, James and Dan talk about the importance of awards and Dan tells a not-convoluted story about how he missed the awards! Elsewhere in the episode, they talk about the idea of gay wrestling to determine sexual roles. From 'gay spacho' to 'horse fair', they tackle stereotypes and misconceptions surrounding common myths. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gayno...
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Big Feet, Big... Energy?
Wednesday, 23 October 2024
Pubs, they're a British institution. But, in this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring the cultural differences between gay and nongay people when it comes to the drinking hole: cleanliness, atmosphere and even drinkware. In non-drinking news, this week we're tackling the contentious phrase "fannying around" and learning and its offensive, historical context. Does the phrase need to (finally) pass away? Plus, can you guess which country leads to a conversation about big dick energy? It's not the one you're thinking of! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay ...
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Hed Kandi (24th May)in the mix
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He.She.They (24th May)in the mix
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Tough Love (24th May)
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