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I Kissed A Boy & Girl Stars on Cancellation, Toxic Gays & Open Relationships

OUTCAST WORLD

Wednesday, 6 May 2026 - 23 minutes

The BBC made history with I Kissed A Boy and I Kissed A Girl.

Then they cancelled them.

In this episode of Outcast World, Graeme Smith is joined by Gareth Valentino and Amy Spalding, two of the standout names from those shows, now launching their own podcast It Started With A Kiss.

What starts as a conversation about queer TV quickly turns into something else.

We get into what it actually felt like to come out on national television, the reality of sudden visibility, and why those shows mattered more than the BBC seems willing to admit.

Then it shifts.

Gay men being brutal to each other.

Lesbian solidarity.

Open relationships, when they work and when they really don’t.

Chemsex culture.

Internalised homophobia.

And a story about a relationship that went very wrong, involving secrecy, betrayal, and HIV disclosure, that says more about queer dating than most people are willing to say out loud.

This is part one of a two-part conversation.

In part two, we go further into the politics, Trump, trans rights, the UK, and why queer culture feels like it’s moving forward and backwards at the same time.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Why I Kissed A Boy and I Kissed A Girl mattered

02:30 What it felt like to come out on TV

06:00 The reality of sudden queer visibility

10:00 Gay men vs gay men

13:00 Lesbian solidarity vs male toxicity

16:00 Open relationships, reality vs fantasy

20:00 When non-monogamy goes wrong

24:00 Dating, sex, and honesty in queer culture

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