A Gay and a Non Gay
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
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Episodes
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From Queer Joy to Rage with Reuben Kaye
Wednesday, 7 August 2024
Looking for unapologetic honesty? This weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay delivers exactly that as James and Dan are joined by Australian singer, writer, performer and comedian Reuben Kaye. The trio dive deep into queer culture - addressing the spectrum from Queer joy to Queer rage, as well as Reuben's experience with homophobia and cancel culture. Along the way, we learn about the importance of faking it until you make it, the difference between social dynamics in Australia and the UK and how Reuben found his home in cabaret. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynong...
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Dating Whilst Discovering Yourself
Wednesday, 31 July 2024
Following last weeks conversation about gay stereotypes, this week James and Dan are diving into another myth: that all gay people know each other! Hint: It's, obviously, not true. The question leads onto a conversation about social media habits and the awkwardness that can come with liking people's posts online. This weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay ends with a discussion around polyamorous dating. James and Dan offer their reflections on navigating relationships whilst discovering yourself. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: ...
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Why Do Gays Dance Better? (& Other Stereotypes)
Wednesday, 24 July 2024
On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're discussing two unavoidable questions that have been plaguing the community for years: the so-called 'gay voice' and... why gay people are seemingly so much better at dancing? OK, maybe not. Dan and James tackle these subjects through the lens of internalised homophobia and how stereotypes can lead to feelings of exclusion from the queer community. To prove the point, we try to guess people's sexualities based on their voices (hint: it's not straight-forward!). Plus, James shares details about his new Edinburgh Fringe show. Follow A Gay & A ...
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New York vs London Dating with Bright Light Bright Light
Wednesday, 17 July 2024
We have a special guest on A Gay And A Non-Gay this week... it's 4x Top 20 charting artist Bright Light Bright Light! The Welsh-born, New York-based artist talks with James and Dan about the differences in dating cultures between New York and London as well as the importance of self-love and redefining our perceptions of love and relationships, particularly with the pressures put on love in the LGBTQ+ space. Plus they speak about BLBL's collaboration with Elton John! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynonga...
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Hell, Toes and Unasked Questions
Wednesday, 10 July 2024
Talk about twists and turns... this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay spans spans from the afterlife to unexpected Grindr encounters in Bali. James and Dan kick off by pondering a fear of going to hell before talking about uncomfortable family dynamics and persistent questions from loved ones. They also tackle a listener dilemma about dealing with a non-accepting grandparent. This weeks episode is somewhere between candid, thought-provoking and moments where you will think "wait... what did you just say!". Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynon...
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Failed Pop Stars & Dating Someone In The Closet
Wednesday, 3 July 2024
Pride Month might have come to an end... but every month is Pride Month on this show! Looking back at this years Mighty Hoopla, James talks about the relationship between gay people and 'failed' pop stars as well as the importance of safety and inclusivity at festivals. In this weeks advice segment, James and Dan explore the challenges faced by a listener who is out and dating someone who isn't and how to maintain authenticity whilst supporting a partner still figuring themselves out. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay...
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How Do You Know... If You've Never Done It?
Wednesday, 26 June 2024
This week, James and Dan are tackling listener questions around challenging assumptions about sexuality. In this weeks "Non-Gays Can't Say", Josh from Glasgow asks a provocative question around how you truly know if you're gay... if you've never been with a woman. The discussion shifts to recent comments made by the Pope, leading to a conversation around the complexities of religion and homophobia and there's a listener question about flirty behaviour towards a colleague. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gay...
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Why We Still Need Pride Month
Wednesday, 19 June 2024
With the pendulum swinging and violence towards the LGBTQ+ community on the rise, this week James and Dan are discussing why Pride Month is still so important. They talk about issues ranging from violence to conversation therapy and discriminatory laws, whilst also delving into James' personal experience with domestic abuse and the challenges of speaking out. Advocates and allies have never been more important than right now! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn mor...
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When Did "Just Sex" Stop Being Enough?
Wednesday, 12 June 2024
James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough? Let us know what you think on our socials @gaynongay or email us with your opinions and dilemmas - us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History
Wednesday, 5 June 2024
Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s. Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s
Wednesday, 29 May 2024
How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo
Wednesday, 22 May 2024
James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Can identity exist without labels?
Wednesday, 15 May 2024
James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is it toxic for gays to be anti-pride?
Thursday, 9 May 2024
Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here. Get tickets to see James’ new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is monogamy a hoax?
Wednesday, 1 May 2024
James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nongays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Who Is Joel Creasey's Front Runner For Eurovision?
Wednesday, 24 April 2024
Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode. Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for Joan Rivers? And which Minogue sister would be amazing as a UK or Australian Eurovision entry? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Richard Gadd on Baby Reindeer (2019 Re-Release)
Wednesday, 17 April 2024
Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed as a stage show. Trigger Warning - this episode does contain conversations about abuse and sexual violence. For help and guidance, you can find Survivors Network at survivorsnetwork.org.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Are 'TradWives' Progressive Or A Step Backwards?
Wednesday, 10 April 2024
Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think? In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Exploring Trans Love And Identity: 'Close To You' with Elliot Page & Dominic Savage
Wednesday, 27 March 2024
James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'. Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance encounter with an old friend (Hillary Baack) on his way home to a dreaded family reunion that forces him to confront long-buried feelings. They explore the creative process behind creating this film and the importance of trans masc representation in cinema. This interview was part of the BFI Flare: London LBTQIA+ Film Festival. You can find more info about the festival and other great art pieces via their website. Learn more about your ad choic...
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I Had To Have Tea With His Mum On The First Date
Wednesday, 20 March 2024
What would you do if you had to have tea with someone's mum on the first date? James and Dan are back and in this episode they explore whether online LGBTQ+ inclusivity posts actually do more harm than good... as well as responding to more of your pressing dilemmas! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Barbie needed The Gays
Wednesday, 13 March 2024
Happy Ken Day! ... But where were the gays in Barbieland? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Crystal Hefner's Journey to Freedom: How to find strength after manipulation and control
Wednesday, 6 March 2024
Crystal Hefner sheds light on her time at the infamous Playboy Mansion, from the glamour of the mansion to the shadows of manipulation, abuse and control. James and Dan discuss Hugh Hefner's legacy and the dark underbelly of the Playboy empire. From the pressures of maintaining physical perfection to the emotional and financial exploitation. Crystal shares her conflicting feelings about her relationship with Hefner and her eventual realisation of the toxic dynamics at play. Crystal's journey highlights the importance of self-respect and empowerment in breaking free from abusive situations...
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Do All Men Reply Like That...?
Wednesday, 28 February 2024
Do you find yourself attractive? Would you put your honey where your mouth is and literally taste your own penis? James and Dan are back with a chat about self-image, arousal, and how to navigate intimacy in modern relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Do Gay's Experience 'The Girlfriend Effect'?
Wednesday, 21 February 2024
Is the "girlfriend effect" real? Do straight men suddenly get their act together because of their girlfriends? Plus James wants to know if it's okay to filter your pics before sliding into someone's DMs? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Crazy Celeb Rumours
Thursday, 15 February 2024
James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jamie Dornan Reviews His 'Doppelgänger' Dan
Wednesday, 7 February 2024
It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to settle the score on Dan's Jamie Dornan lookalike status. Plus our listener shares his struggles with being mistaken for gay and wonders if there's something he's missing about himself. Get in touch with us via our DMs, follow @gaynongay on your socials or email us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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I think I fancy my best friend
Wednesday, 31 January 2024
James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions for his friend who's about to tie the knot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Queer Love and Loneliness: A Conversation with Andrew Haigh, Director of 'All of Us Strangers'
Wednesday, 24 January 2024
James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexities of love, loneliness, and the queer experience, taking viewers on a journey through time and emotion. Andrew shares his insights into the creative process, discussing the challenges of revisiting his childhood home for the film's setting and the cathartic experience it brought. As the conversation unfolds, the hosts touch on the unique ways queer individuals experience time, the nuanced portrayal of queer characters by queer actors, and th...
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Best of the Guests 2023
Thursday, 4 January 2024
Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023. Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NHS over waiting times for trans patients, a lively debate with gay Tory Councillor Andrew Boff, our emotional conversation with the Real Jill Nalder from It’s A Sin, a chilling conversation about chemsex murders with Patrick Strudwick and legendary DJ Fat Tony opening up about his struggles with sex addiction. A Gay And A Nongay will return in 2024! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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DJ Fat Tony on addiction, recovery and how to finally find happiness
Tuesday, 26 December 2023
Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 2. James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by legendary DJ Fat Tony for an in-depth conversation about addiction, recovery and how he finally found happiness. We also hear about Tony & Stavros wedding plans, and how their special day will be dedicated to the entire LGBTQ+ community. DJ Fat Tony interview starts at 01.35. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
